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Two Sides Of A Coin, By Emeka Monye

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Earlier this week, I read a piece by one Sunny Igboanugo faulting Nigeria’s football international, Victor Oshimhen after the latter reacted to how one of his childhood friends failed to show appreciation for a financial assistance of five thousand United Kingdom pounds.

Part of the statement reads: “Victor Osimhen: “I used to send money to one of my childhood friends but one day he told me about a business he wants to start and needed financial support.

I sent him €5k but he didn’t appreciate it and even told me he read on the news that I earned 1 million euros every week and he was expecting like €50k to start up this business.

I was so mad that I wanted to reverse the transaction but I couldn’t. That money €5k can only buy a pair of shoes in Europe but in Nigeria, it’s a lot of money.

Nobody sent me 1 dollar before I came to Europe, I hustle day and night, I sold bottled water on the street. People should learn to appreciate whatever they get as gifts not have this sense of entitlement “.

Off quote.

Osimhen, in his statement, had complained how ungrateful his supposed childhood friend was after the transfer of such a huge sum, by Nigeria standard, to his account, describing such an act as unbearing and unbecoming.

He went in to narrate how he sold bottled water on the streets to etch a living for himself, yet not a few people will identify with such struggles.

There are many Osimhens on the streets, struggling day and night to break the clouds of poverty and let the rains of wealth shower upon them, yet most of these people who feel entitled, will never see them but when the sunshine of wealth begins to smile on them, they surface from nowhere, claiming entitlement.

That’s the reality and it is stark.Osimhen, to me personally, has done well with his generosity.

He owes no one an explanation about how he spends his funds since he works for it and therefore can decide how he spends it, to whom he wants to give it and how much he desires release for his generosity to individuals and charity organisations.

For God’s sake, people who are quick to thinking that those who have made it financially are obligated to assist them, should begin to have a rethink, they should know that there is a difference between obligation and right, favour and privileges, etc. and when one continually receives from a benefactor is not a justification for abuse.

Such beneficiary should understand that there are other bills to be settled by the benefactor.

Infact, the only people one is obligated to collect financial support from are your parents, not even your siblings, and when your friends support you with some financial assistance, it is favour extended and a privilege you enjoy and not a right or their obligation.

Back to Igboanugo’s piece. In it he tried to compare his circumstance with that of Osimhen’s, resonating his experience with his childhood friend with whom he shared almost everything, how he helped him in his trying days and how the friend too paid him back when the side of the coin changed.

Kudos to him, he is a good man no doubt. But sir, I disagree with you on this generous gesture. Igboanuga should know that he is Igboanugo and Osimhen is Oshimhen.

Five thousand pounds is not a small sum to start a business in the Nigerian context. When translated into the Nigerian currency, at the present exchange rate value of two thousand Naira to a pound, it is ten million Naira.

Both of them are of two different personalities with different values, beliefs, characters, upbringing and different focus and ambition.

Besides, both circumstances are contextual. Igboanugo’s standards of extending a helping hand to a friend are not benchmarks to judge whether someone’s actions or inactions towards childhood friends, are right or wrong, perhaps they are not universally acknowledged.

Osimhem knows where it hurts him, in terms of the number of hangers-on on his pay roll, who on a daily, weekly and monthly basis solicit for financial assistance from him..

One thing we were not told is how much this dude has benefitted from Osimhen in his daily interactions, including gifts, cash, connections, etc. It is true that as humans, our emotions can always make us think that true friendship should always be judged by pecuniary rewards.

This is a fallacy. Osimhen may have gotten him connected, that we don’t know and that we should leave for history to judge.

Igboanugo’s piece also reflects the entitlement mentality that pervades our socio-economic and cultural circles.

Everyone feels entitled to successful people’s wealth, even when we know such is unjustifiable.

Igboanugo should know that if Osimhen continues with his generosity of taking care of hangers-on, sooner or later he will have nothing left for his future.

History is replete with super stars who because they wanted to satisfy the whims and caprices of their beneficiaries, ended up bankrupt.

The world is full of executive beggars, people who don’t want to “hussle” and make a living for themselves, rather depend on the benevolence of hardworking men who daily sacrifice present comfort for their future gains.

Five thousand pounds is not a small sum to start a business in the Nigerian context. When translated into the Nigerian currency, at the present exchange rate value of two thousand Naira to a pound, it is ten million Naira.

If the childhood is prudent enough and knows how to manage funds, and maybe himself, such sum is enough to kick start his business and make him live the life of his dreams.

▪︎Emeka Monye Is A Journalist And Works With ARISE NEWS

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Christmas Eve Explosion: One Too Many

We commiserate with the families of those who have lost their loved ones in this senseless attack. No one should lose their life while worshipping God.

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By Ini Ememobong
 

The news of an explosion in a mosque in Gamboru Market, Maiduguri is another sad reminder of the rising insecurity that has become the unfortunate contemporary reality that Nigerians face.

This is totally unacceptable; the irreducible minimum the government should offer its people is the protection of lives and property.

This administration has failed woefully in this respect and should rise to the occasion rather than resort to rhetoric and playing politics with security.
 
We commiserate with the families of those who have lost their loved ones in this senseless attack. No one should lose their life while worshipping God.

If these attacks on places of worship continue unchecked, they will not only violate the constitutional right of Nigerians to freely worship but will also create an atmosphere of fear that threatens the very fabric of our religious society.


We call on the Federal and State Governments to take immediate and practical steps to protect our citizens throughout this yuletide season and beyond.

Nigerians deserve more than empty promises and political rhetoric. We need concrete, actionable security strategies deployed on the ground.

This escalating insecurity has become unbearable and must be confronted with the urgency and seriousness it deserves
 
• Comrade Ini Ememobong is the
National Publicity Secretary,
People’s Democratic Party

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In Praise of Nigeria’s Quiet Heroes

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By Adebayo Ilupeju

I woke up this morning still carrying yesterday in my body. After covering about 320km on Lagos roads, mixed with the familiar December traffic that stretches patience to its limits, my nerves were clearly protesting.

That moment of exhaustion slowed my pace but quickened my thoughts.

It set my mind wandering toward the people who give their all so that others can live with a little more ease. Across Nigeria, there are men and women who show up every day, against all odds, to deliver the services they are employed to provide, and then some. They do not merely clock in and out.

They pour themselves into their work, often unseen, often uncelebrated.One such person is a hijabi sister at the LSETF Kosofe liaison office. She is the very picture of dedication.

Calm, patient, and relentless in her pursuit of solutions, she works tirelessly to ensure people are attended to and guided rightly. Speak to anyone who has crossed her path and the verdict is the same. She has a heart of gold and a rare sense of responsibility.

Then there is the charming LASTMA official of Radio Bus Stop fame. He has somehow mastered the art of turning chaos into calm.

While directing traffic, he dances, smiles, and exchanges courtesies with commuters, easing tension and restoring a sense of order. I have encountered him in other parts of the city as well, always consistent, always human, always reminding us that service does not have to be cold or harsh.

These are just two examples among thousands scattered across the country. From offices to roadsides, from hospitals to classrooms, there are countless golden hearts holding the system together with sheer commitment and goodwill. They are the quiet backbone of daily life.

They are unsung heroes.As a society, we may not always have grand rewards to offer, but recognition goes a long way. A sincere thank you. Public acknowledgment. Commendation letters. Small incentives. Structured reward systems that spotlight integrity, kindness, and excellence in service.

These gestures matter more than we often realize.When good work is seen, it grows. When dedication is appreciated, it spreads.

If we truly desire a better Nigeria, we must learn to celebrate those who are already doing right, especially those who continue to serve with grace when no one seems to be watching.

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When Public Outcry Actually Works: The Aide-de-Camp’s Promotion U-Turn

In a real democracy, it’s not just about making the right call the first time. It’s about having the guts to fix things when you get them wrong.

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•President Bola Tinubu

President Bola Tinubu just walked back the much-criticised promotion of his Aide-de-Camp (ADC) to Brigadier -General after Nigerians made a lot of noise about it.

For once, people’s voices cut through the usual government static. It’s proof that, at least sometimes, public outrage can actually change things in Nigeria.

This promotion wasn’t just a small slip-up. Inside the army and among civilians, folks were angry because the whole thing seemed to break the military’s own rules.

Normally, if you’re a Colonel, you sit tight for several years before anyone even thinks about making you a Brigadier General.

In this case, the ADC barely had a year in that seat. Plus, ADCs don’t usually get picked from such high ranks in the first place.

For once, people’s voices cut through the usual government static. It’s proof that, at least sometimes, public outrage can actually change things in Nigeria.

So, the whole thing looked fishy from the start. It’s not just about skipping a step—it points to a bigger issue: the president’s advisers dropped the ball.

And honestly, you can’t really separate Tinubu from the problem.

The ADC is glued to the president’s side, and a move like this would never fly without his say-so. Still, let’s be fair. Tinubu actually paid attention to the outcry.

He listened, changed his mind, and reversed a decision that most leaders would’ve stubbornly stuck with.

In a real democracy, it’s not just about making the right call the first time. It’s about having the guts to fix things when you get them wrong.

Strangely, though, some of the same people who slammed the promotion are now upset about the reversal, too. What do they want? Real accountability, or just something new to complain about?

In the end, this whole episode is a reminder to those in power: follow the rules, pick advisers who know what they’re doing, and take public criticism seriously—without flipping and flopping.

That’s how you rebuild trust, little by little, between leaders and the people they’re supposed to serve.

Adebayo Ilupeju, Lagos.

Caveat: The opinion expressed in this article is solely that of the author, and not that of Ohibaba.com

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