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The Backlash Against Enioluwa’s Tears Shows Why Nigerian Men Are Dying in Silence , by Halima Layeni
The recent attack on 25 Year-old Nigerian influencer, Enioluwa Adeoluwa, for crying at his best friend, Priscilla’s wedding is more than an internet scandal. It is an indictment of our collective failure to raise emotionally healthy men.

A nation that once took pride in raising “strong men” is now reaping the consequences of generations of emotional suppression and it’s breaking our men.
The recent attack on 25 Year-old Nigerian influencer, Enioluwa Adeoluwa, for crying at his best friend, Priscilla’s wedding is more than an internet scandal. It is an indictment of our collective failure to raise emotionally healthy men.
Enioluwa, in a raw, beautiful, and deeply human moment, shed tears as he celebrated a life milestone with someone he loves platonically.
But instead of compassion, he was met with venom.
The internet erupted with disturbing comments from Nigerian men, the very people who should understand the weight of unspoken emotions.
“Men used to fight lions and tigers but little boys have to watch Enioluwa shed tears like a woman on her period.”
“Enioluwa is such a terrible role model for younger men.”
“When I have a male child, when he turns 10 years old I go first break five bottles for his head make he know say men mount.”
“I go wear crown of thorns make he know say life no be bed of roses.”“See simp behavior. You dey cry because woman marry? Na wa for you.”
A man who cannot cry is often a man who cannot connect, cannot heal, and cannot love fully.
“He must have been sleeping with her. Why else would a man cry that much?
”These cruel commentary is not just about Enioluwa. It is about every boy who has been told that his tears are unacceptable.
It is about every man who has been shamed for showing emotion. It is about a culture that would rather raise broken, hardened men than whole, healthy ones.
There is nothing wrong with a man crying. There is nothing wrong with a man expressing deep affection for a friend.
There is nothing wrong with a man being emotionally present in a moment of transition, joy, or loss.
What is wrong is the fact that our society punishes softness, ridicules empathy, and weaponizes masculinity.
Boys in Nigeria and many parts of the world are taught from an early age that masculinity means stoicism, dominance, and emotional detachment.
“Be a man” often means: suppress your feelings, deny your pain, and never under any circumstances show vulnerability.
Over time, this has created men who are emotionally constipated, unable to process grief, incapable of expressing love, and ill-equipped to build emotionally safe relationships.
This recent incident also brings to light another disturbing facet of toxic masculinity, the idea that men and women cannot be friends without sex.
Enioluwa was accused of being a “simp,” “emotional,” and “pathetic,” simply for valuing his platonic friendship.
Some even went as far as suggesting that he must have been sleeping with his best friend because, to them, no man could possibly show that kind of love unless there was sexual benefit involved.
This thinking is not only immature, it is harmful. It denies men the full range of human connection.
It teaches them that friendship is only valuable if it comes with physical reward. And it strips them of the beautiful, non-sexual intimacy that makes life meaningful.
The idea that a man cannot cry over the marriage of his female best friend without ridicule is a sign of deep emotional poverty.
We are grooming our sons to become emotionally unavailable men and it is showing up in our homes, our relationships, and our society.
Men who cannot express emotions also struggle to be present partners, affectionate fathers, and loyal friends.
They retreat from vulnerability, and in doing so, they retreat from the very thing that makes them human.
The emotional repression we’ve normalized is killing our men literally and figuratively. Suicide, substance abuse, domestic violence, absentee fatherhood all have roots in unresolved pain and emotional illiteracy.
A man who cannot cry is often a man who cannot connect, cannot heal, and cannot love fully.
There is nothing weak about a man who cries. There is nothing shameful about being soft and compassionate.
There is nothing unmanly about being vulnerable. In fact, it takes immense courage to feel deeply in a world that tells men to shut it down.
Healthy masculinity is not born from emotional numbness, it is nurtured through compassion, empathy, and self-awareness.We must raise men who are free to feel.
Men who understand that crying is not a sign of weakness, but a release of strength.
Boys who will grow into men who can be tender with their spouses, emotionally present for their children, supportive of their friends, and kind to themselves.
The backlash Enioluwa faced is painful, but it has started a conversation that we cannot afford to ignore.
If we truly care about our men, their mental health, their emotional well-being, their future we must rewire the way we raise them.
No more broken bottles. No more crowns of thorns.
No more silent suffering. Let us raise men who cry, who feel, who love, and who heal.
Let us raise whole men.
• Halima Layeni, Founder Men’s Mental Health Advocate / Life After Abuse Foundation, wrote this piece
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65 Years of Nigeria’s Economic Journey, by Muda Yusuf
Nigeria’s economic history at 65 is one of resilience, missed opportunities, and enormous untapped potential.

Nigeria’s economic journey over the past 65 years has been one of profound transformation — shaped by cycles of boom and bust, far-reaching reforms, recurring crises, and enduring struggles with diversification.
As the nation marks 65 years of independence, reflecting on this trajectory is essential to chart a more sustainable, competitive, and inclusive path for the future.
Foundations and Lessons from the Early Years
At independence, Nigeria’s economy was largely agrarian, productive, and inclusive.
Agriculture contributed an estimated 60 percent of gross Domestic Product [GDP] and employed the majority of the country’s workforce.
The export economy was anchored on cash crops — cocoa, groundnuts, palm oil, and rubber — and citizens were actively engaged in the entire value chain.
Governance was decentralized, with regions controlling resources and revenues, which promoted balanced development, accountability, and healthy competition.
This early experience offers an enduring lesson: decentralization and local ownership of resources drive innovation and inclusive growth.
Restoring a more fiscally federal structure could once again foster subnational competitiveness, stimulate innovation, and encourage states and regions to take greater ownership of economic outcomes.
The Oil Boom and Structural Distortions
The discovery and commercialization of crude oil in the late 1960s radically altered Nigeria’s economic and political trajectory.
By the 1970s, oil had become the dominant source of public revenue and foreign exchange.
The oil boom delivered significant wealth but also created structural vulnerabilities.
Agriculture was neglected, leading to food import dependence.
Corruption and rent-seeking behavior escalated, while import-substitution industrialization became overly dependent on imported inputs, leaving domestic value chains underdeveloped.
This dependence made the economy acutely vulnerable to oil price shocks — a weakness that continues to destabilize public finances to this day.
The key lesson is clear: resource wealth must be managed prudently and counter cyclically through well-governed stabilization funds and sovereign wealth investments, while industrialization must be firmly rooted in domestic value chains rather than external dependence.
Nigeria has experienced eight recessions since independence — in 1967, 1975, 1978, 1981–1983, 1993, 2016, and 2020 — largely triggered by oil price shocks, fiscal mismanagement, or global crises.
Adjustment, Liberalization, and Social Costs
The oil price collapse of the early 1980s triggered fiscal and balance-of-payments crises that forced Nigeria to adopt the Structural Adjustment Program (SAP) in 1986.
This shift introduced currency devaluation, trade liberalization, financial sector reform, and privatization of state-owned enterprises.
While SAP nudged Nigeria toward a market economy, it also came with significant social costs — rising poverty, inflation, and industrial underutilization. Import dependence worsened in the absence of robust domestic production.
The lesson here is that reforms must be carefully sequenced and complemented with strong institutional frameworks and social protection mechanisms to avoid deepening poverty and inequality.
Recurring Recessions and Structural Weakness
Nigeria has experienced eight recessions since independence — in 1967, 1975, 1978, 1981–1983, 1993, 2016, and 2020 — largely triggered by oil price shocks, fiscal mismanagement, or global crises.
Each downturn revealed the same structural fragilities: heavy reliance on oil revenues, weak non-oil exports, and excessive import dependence.
Building resilience will require export diversification, fiscal discipline, and the creation of credible stabilization mechanisms to ensure stability of government spending during periods of revenue volatility.
Oil and Gas Governance: From Crisis to Opportunity
For decades, Nigeria’s oil and gas sector was plagued by poor governance, corruption, and rent-seeking, leading to the collapse of state-owned refineries, heavy dependence on imported petroleum products, and widespread crude oil theft.
This mismanagement undermined fiscal stability and reduced the sector’s developmental impact.
Cheerfully, recent developments — notably the Dangote Refinery and petrochemical complex and ongoing industry reforms — signal a potential turnaround.
These efforts, if sustained, could restore value to the sector, enhance energy security, and catalyze new downstream and petrochemical investments.
Security and Productivity
The last two decades have seen a deterioration in national security — insurgency, banditry, kidnapping, ethnic and religious conflicts, farmers herders clashes and armed robbery — which disrupted agriculture, manufacturing, and mining, and eroded investor confidence.
Restoring security is therefore not just a social imperative but an economic one, necessary to rebuild productivity and unlock investment in the real economy.
Emerging Bright Spots
Despite persistent challenges, Nigeria has achieved notable successes.
The ICT and telecommunications sector has grown from fewer than 20,000 telephone lines in 1960 to over 165 million active lines today, transforming commerce, banking, and governance.
Financial services have deepened, fintech has flourished, and capital markets have expanded.
Nollywood and Afrobeats have turned Nigeria into a global cultural powerhouse.
Broadcasting has grown from one TV station and a few government-owned radio stations at independence to more than 740 broadcast stations today, while e-commerce is reshaping consumer markets.
These sectors demonstrate Nigeria’s potential for non-oil-led growth. Unlocking further progress will require strengthening infrastructure, power supply, broadband penetration, and regulatory consistency to attract and sustain private sector investment.
Macroeconomic and Fiscal Challenges
Persistent macroeconomic instability continues to weigh on growth.
The naira’s dramatic depreciation — from being stronger than the U.S. dollar in the 1970s to ₦1,600/$ in 2024 — has eroded purchasing power, raised production costs, and discouraged investment.
Rising public debt and unsustainable debt-service-to-revenue ratios have constrained the fiscal space, limiting governments’ capacity to fund critical infrastructures.
Policy priorities must focus on restoring currency stability through credible monetary policy, expanding foreign exchange supply by growing non-oil exports, improving public spending efficiency, plugging fiscal leakages, and raising non-oil revenue without stifling private enterprise.
The good news is that the economy is beginning to experience remarkable degree of stability over the last one year.
Demographics, Infrastructure, and Future Growth
Nigeria’s population of an estimated 230 million is both a significant opportunity and a daunting challenge. Infrastructure — roads, power, housing, education, and healthcare — remains grossly inadequate, undermining productivity and competitiveness.
Aggressive infrastructure investment, leveraging public-private partnerships and innovative financing models, is no longer optional but an urgent necessity.
Reform Agenda and the Way Forward
In the last two years, the government has implemented bold reforms, including exchange rate unification, fuel subsidy removal, and tax policy adjustments.
These measures have imposed short-term pain — high inflation and reduced household purchasing power — but early signs of macroeconomic stabilization are emerging.
To sustain reform momentum, these measures must be complemented by targeted social protection programs — cash transfers, food security interventions, and job-creation initiatives — to shield vulnerable households and maintain public support.Strategic Priorities for the Next Decade
Looking ahead, Nigeria must focus on:Deepening economic diversification: Scaling up value addition in agriculture, manufacturing, and solid minerals.
Strengthening governance and institutions: Enhancing transparency, reducing the cost of governance, and improving fiscal responsibility and management.
Investing in human capital: Prioritizing education, health, and vocational training to harness the demographic dividend.
Accelerating infrastructure development: Power, transport, and broadband must be prioritised through PPPs and innovative finance.
Ensuring inclusive growth:
Embedding poverty reduction, job creation, and social protection in fiscal and monetary policy.
Conclusion
Nigeria’s economic history at 65 is one of resilience, missed opportunities, and enormous untapped potential.
The current reform agenda presents a rare opportunity to reset the economy on a path of stability, competitiveness, and shared prosperity.
Seizing this moment will require consistent policies, institutional strengthening, and a deliberate effort to ensure that economic growth translates into improved living standards for citizens.
• Dr Muda Yusuf is the Director/ CEO, Centre for the Promotion of Private Enterprise, CPPE.
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Electoral Reform, Politics, and Broken Promises: Nigeria’s Democracy at a Crossroads

The August 16, 2025 by-elections were supposed to be a routine democratic exercise — a constitutional means of filling vacant parliamentary seats across 12 states in Nigeria. Instead, they became another tragic reminder of the dysfunction that has come to define Nigeria’s electoral system. For many Nigerians, these elections weren’t just flawed; they were a grim preview of the 2027 general elections, and a painful echo of broken promises long past.
From faulty equipment and logistical nightmares to voter intimidation, violence, and brazen vote-buying — the elections descended into what many now describe as a sham. Even by Nigerian standards, the scale of irregularities shocked the public. Reports from civil society groups and observers such as the Movement for the Transformation of Nigeria (MOTiON) and Kimpact Development Initiative (KDI) painted a bleak picture: systemic inefficiency by INEC, failure of BVAS and IREV technologies, and the open exchange of cash for votes. One trader was even caught with ₦25 million in cash — not in a bank, but at a polling unit in Kaduna.
This isn’t just about one election gone wrong. It’s about a country whose political elite continue to sabotage reform, abuse power, and weaponize dysfunction for personal gain. The by-elections were, quite frankly, a dress rehearsal for what may become a democratic collapse if nothing changes before 2027.
A Legacy of Violence and Decay
Nigeria has always had a troubled relationship with elections. From the bloody contests of the First Republic to the annulled 1993 election, and now to digital-age vote-rigging, the playbook has remained largely the same: violence, manipulation, and the subversion of democratic will.
The names may have changed, but the tactics haven’t. In Kano, more than 300 armed thugs were arrested with weapons ranging from pump-action rifles to swords — not in a warzone, but during elections. Across the country, politicians deploy money and muscle to win at all costs. Why? Because the stakes are high — public office in Nigeria is not about service, it’s a gateway to personal enrichment.
As Dr. Charles Mezie-Okoye of the University of Port Harcourt aptly put it: “What we just witnessed is a tip of the iceberg.” He’s not exaggerating. If this is what by-elections look like, what will happen when the presidency and all legislative seats are up for grabs in 2027?
Reform Talk, No Reform Action
After the disaster that was the 2007 general election, even late President Umaru Musa Yar’Adua admitted it was flawed. He established the Justice Uwais-led Electoral Reform Committee, which made bold and well-reasoned recommendations. Chief among them: remove the power to appoint the INEC chairman from the president, unbundle INEC to improve efficiency, and create an Electoral Offences Commission to tackle violence and impunity.
But more than 15 years later, most of those reforms remain on paper. Successive administrations and lawmakers have cherry-picked cosmetic amendments to the Electoral Act while ignoring the foundational problems. The appointments to INEC remain heavily politicised. Electoral violence continues to go unpunished. And the 2022 amendments — though progressive in some areas — did not address the power dynamics that choke the credibility out of Nigerian elections.
Let’s be honest: the political class has no incentive to reform a system that keeps them in power.
Trust in INEC Is at an All-Time Low
In 2023, INEC registered 93.5 million voters. 87 million collected their PVCs. But only around 27% showed up to vote. That’s a historic low. Even Zimbabwe in 1996 had a better turnout. This isn’t just voter apathy — it’s voter despair.
Nigerians are tired of elections that don’t reflect their will. Tired of queuing under the sun to vote, only for the results to be written in backrooms. Tired of a rigged system that rewards impunity and punishes honesty. And when trust in the electoral process erodes, democracy becomes hollow.
As Professor Ken Nweke puts it, “Citizens’ trust in government depends on the quality of institutions. Appointing devious persons into these institutions erodes that trust.”
2027: Another Election or Another Crisis?
With less than two years to go until the next general election, the warning signs are flashing red. Civil society is alarmed. Political analysts are worried. Ordinary Nigerians are anxious.
If the system is already this broken during by-elections, there is every reason to fear for what might happen in 2027. This could be Nigeria’s last chance to save its democracy — or at least what’s left of it.
What Must Be Done
- Implement the Uwais Report: Not selectively. Not half-heartedly. Fully. This includes taking the appointment of INEC chairperson out of presidential control and creating an Electoral Offences Commission.
- Strengthen Institutions, Not Just Technology: BVAS and IREV won’t work if the people managing them are corrupt or poorly trained. Electoral credibility starts with competent and independent institutions.
- Hold Politicians Accountable: Vote-buying, violence, and electoral manipulation must be prosecuted without exception. Enough with the impunity.
- Empower Citizens: Civil society, trade unions, faith-based organisations — all must put pressure on the National Assembly and presidency to act now. Reform must be people-driven, not politician-led.
A Final Word
Nigeria’s democracy is sick — and it’s not a mystery why. Broken promises, compromised institutions, and a political culture that rewards violence and deceit have poisoned the system.
But it’s not too late. If Nigerians choose to organise, resist, and demand accountability, this nation’s story can still change. History teaches us that democracies die not just from coups, but from indifference. We cannot afford that.
Now is the time to act. 2027 is not far off. And unless urgent reforms are implemented, we may be heading for a political crisis we won’t walk away from.
About the Author
This article was written exclusively for Ohibaba.com.
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UNGA2025: World Leaders Cannot Achieve Gender Equality Without UNMen in the Global Agenda

• Halima Layeni
By Halima Layeni
As world leaders converge for the 80th United Nations General Assembly, the world will once again be filled with lofty declarations of equality, justice, and the global commitment to “leave no one behind.”
For decades, heads of state have mounted the UN podium to reaffirm their dedication to building a fairer and more inclusive world.
Yet behind the powerful rhetoric rests a stark reality: our international system has systematically excluded men and boys from the gender equality agenda.
Each year, billions of dollars are directed toward programs for women and girls.
Entire agencies exist to advance their progress. Yet there is no UN Men. No dedicated institution, no agency, and no systematic recognition of the unique challenges faced by men and boys.
At the United Nations, gender equality remains, at best, an unfinished project.
The creation of UN Women was a historic milestone, and its work has been transformative.
But an equality framework that consistently overlooks half of humanity cannot truly be called equality.
It is omission, and that omission carries devastating consequences not only for men, but also for women, families, communities, and economies.
Billions of dollars are invested in women’s health, maternal health, reproductive rights, and women’s empowerment in education and business.
These investments are vital. But there is no equivalent investment for men.
The irony is striking: the very men whose wealth sustains much of UN funding, from Bill Gates to male founded corporations and institutions, are excluded from the agenda they help finance.
Men have become the financial backbone of global development, yet their own mental health crises, workplace risks, and social challenges remain invisible.
Men are four times more likely than women to die by suicide. In many countries, suicide is the leading cause of death for men under 50.
September is Suicide Prevention Month, yet there is no UN resolution, no global campaign, no flagship effort that addresses men’s crisis with the urgency it demands.
Movements like Movember have done more to spotlight men’s health than the United Nations itself. That fact alone should compel world leaders to act.
The imbalance is equally evident on the UN calendar. There are more than seventeen official days dedicated to women and girls, from the International Day of the Girl Child to the International Day to End Violence against Women.
Yet there is not a single UN recognized international day for men. The United Nations has institutionalized the belief that men’s issues are not worthy of recognition.
If the promise is to “leave no one behind,” then why have men and boys been left behind at the highest levels of global governance?
Grassroots initiatives demonstrate that men will engage when given the space.
Andy’s Man Club in the UK offers weekly peer support to thousands of men.
Life After Abuse Foundation in Nigeria has led groundbreaking campaigns on men’s mental health, trauma, and gender equity.
These organizations are pioneering vital work, but they cannot replace the institutional power of the United Nations. Without a global platform, men’s struggles will remain fragmented and chronically underfunded.
At the same time, men are consistently called to be allies for gender equality, to stand up for women, to fight violence, and to create space in politics and business.
These are noble and necessary goals. But the contradiction is glaring: how can men be allies when their own struggles are ignored?
How can they feel they belong in a system that denies them acknowledgment?
True allyship requires belonging, yet men are relegated to supporting roles in a framework where they themselves are not included.It is also important to acknowledge that the vast majority of world leaders are men.
The Inter Parliamentary Union reported that over 85 percent of heads of state and government remain male.
At the UN General Assembly, leaders present their boldest visions for humanity, yet the challenges of men and boys are almost never mentioned.
The paradox is undeniable. These are men who speak passionately about climate change, peace, poverty, and the rights of women and girls. Yet when it comes to their own gender, they remain silent.
From shaping international frameworks to championing human rights, the United States has been the engine of many global successes. Now, it is time for the U.S. to lead again by advancing the establishment of UN Men.
If men dominate the seats of power, why is there such reluctance to address men’s challenges?
Why is it that leaders who themselves are fathers, brothers, and sons do not raise the issues that directly affect their own gender on the global stage?
This silence is not accidental. It is cultural. It is rooted in the entrenched belief that men must always be strong, stoic, and self sufficient, even when the evidence says otherwise.
The silence of world leaders mirrors the silence many men endure in their personal lives.
The United States has long stood apart as a pioneer in shaping the modern world. It was America that helped create the very United Nations that today gathers world leaders. It was America that put humanity on the moon.
America has consistently led the way in building institutions, driving democratic values, advancing global health, and fostering technological revolutions.
From shaping international frameworks to championing human rights, the United States has been the engine of many global successes. Now, it is time for the U.S. to lead again by advancing the establishment of UN Men.
In recent years, leaders like Donald Trump reminded the world that millions of men felt overlooked and undervalued.
His policies on growth and jobs, his focus on American workers, and his message of strength resonated with men who believed globalization had left their struggles unaddressed.
That was not merely politics. It was a signal that men’s grievances are real and must be confronted.
America has historically demonstrated the courage to face truths that others avoid, and it must now lead again at the 80th UNGA by championing the creation of UN Men.
This is not just a call to the United States, but to every nation at the UNGA. From France to Japan, from Brazil to Germany, world leaders must acknowledge that the health, dignity, and well being of men are not peripheral concerns. They are urgent priorities.
The time has come for courage, and courage begins with truth. The truth is simple: we need UN Men. Not to compete with UN Women, but to complement it. Just as UN Women institutionalized women’s rights, UN Men must institutionalize the advancement of men.
Together, they can create a holistic vision of gender justice that fully embraces the human experience.UN Men would champion men’s mental health. It would address vulnerabilities in education, work, justice, and health.
It would research fatherhood, caregiving, and evolving male identities. It would dismantle harmful stereotypes that fuel cycles of silence and violence.
Most importantly, it would ensure men are recognized not just as allies to women, but as human beings with their own struggles and their own right to care, support, and dignity.
Yes, this call will be controversial. Some will argue that it undermines women’s rights. But history shows the opposite.
When one group is elevated while another is ignored, imbalance and resentment take root. When both are recognized, stability and collaboration follow. UN Men would not diminish women’s gains. It would complete them.
To the leaders at UNGA 2025, the message is clear: history is watching.
The men of the world are waiting. Their families are waiting. The United Nations was created to be a beacon of justice and inclusion for all. Establish UN Men.
Dedicate resources, research, and recognition to the struggles of men and boys. Institutionalize their inclusion in the global agenda.
The world will not remember safe speeches. It will remember leaders who had the courage to confront realities others ignored. UNGA 2025 is more than another summit.
It is a historic opportunity to build gender equality on balance rather than omission. The time for UN Men has come.
• Halima Layeni is a Men’s Mental Advocate and Founder & Executive Director, Life After Abuse Foundation.
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