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The Backlash Against Enioluwa’s Tears Shows Why Nigerian Men Are Dying in Silence , by Halima Layeni

The recent attack on 25 Year-old Nigerian influencer, Enioluwa Adeoluwa, for crying at his best friend, Priscilla’s wedding is more than an internet scandal. It is an indictment of our collective failure to raise emotionally healthy men.

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A nation that once took pride in raising “strong men” is now reaping the consequences of generations of emotional suppression and it’s breaking our men.

The recent attack on 25 Year-old Nigerian influencer, Enioluwa Adeoluwa, for crying at his best friend, Priscilla’s wedding is more than an internet scandal. It is an indictment of our collective failure to raise emotionally healthy men.

Enioluwa, in a raw, beautiful, and deeply human moment, shed tears as he celebrated a life milestone with someone he loves platonically.

But instead of compassion, he was met with venom.

The internet erupted with disturbing comments from Nigerian men, the very people who should understand the weight of unspoken emotions.

“Men used to fight lions and tigers but little boys have to watch Enioluwa shed tears like a woman on her period.”

“Enioluwa is such a terrible role model for younger men.”

“When I have a male child, when he turns 10 years old I go first break five bottles for his head make he know say men mount.”

“I go wear crown of thorns make he know say life no be bed of roses.”“See simp behavior. You dey cry because woman marry? Na wa for you.”

A man who cannot cry is often a man who cannot connect, cannot heal, and cannot love fully.

“He must have been sleeping with her. Why else would a man cry that much?

”These cruel commentary is not just about Enioluwa. It is about every boy who has been told that his tears are unacceptable.

It is about every man who has been shamed for showing emotion. It is about a culture that would rather raise broken, hardened men than whole, healthy ones.

There is nothing wrong with a man crying. There is nothing wrong with a man expressing deep affection for a friend.

There is nothing wrong with a man being emotionally present in a moment of transition, joy, or loss.

What is wrong is the fact that our society punishes softness, ridicules empathy, and weaponizes masculinity.

Boys in Nigeria and many parts of the world are taught from an early age that masculinity means stoicism, dominance, and emotional detachment.

“Be a man” often means: suppress your feelings, deny your pain, and never under any circumstances show vulnerability.

Over time, this has created men who are emotionally constipated, unable to process grief, incapable of expressing love, and ill-equipped to build emotionally safe relationships.

This recent incident also brings to light another disturbing facet of toxic masculinity, the idea that men and women cannot be friends without sex.

Enioluwa was accused of being a “simp,” “emotional,” and “pathetic,” simply for valuing his platonic friendship.

Some even went as far as suggesting that he must have been sleeping with his best friend because, to them, no man could possibly show that kind of love unless there was sexual benefit involved.

This thinking is not only immature, it is harmful. It denies men the full range of human connection.

It teaches them that friendship is only valuable if it comes with physical reward. And it strips them of the beautiful, non-sexual intimacy that makes life meaningful.

The idea that a man cannot cry over the marriage of his female best friend without ridicule is a sign of deep emotional poverty.

We are grooming our sons to become emotionally unavailable men and it is showing up in our homes, our relationships, and our society.

Men who cannot express emotions also struggle to be present partners, affectionate fathers, and loyal friends.

They retreat from vulnerability, and in doing so, they retreat from the very thing that makes them human.

The emotional repression we’ve normalized is killing our men literally and figuratively. Suicide, substance abuse, domestic violence, absentee fatherhood all have roots in unresolved pain and emotional illiteracy.

A man who cannot cry is often a man who cannot connect, cannot heal, and cannot love fully.

There is nothing weak about a man who cries. There is nothing shameful about being soft and compassionate.

There is nothing unmanly about being vulnerable. In fact, it takes immense courage to feel deeply in a world that tells men to shut it down.

Healthy masculinity is not born from emotional numbness, it is nurtured through compassion, empathy, and self-awareness.We must raise men who are free to feel.

Men who understand that crying is not a sign of weakness, but a release of strength.

Boys who will grow into men who can be tender with their spouses, emotionally present for their children, supportive of their friends, and kind to themselves.

The backlash Enioluwa faced is painful, but it has started a conversation that we cannot afford to ignore.

If we truly care about our men, their mental health, their emotional well-being, their future we must rewire the way we raise them.

No more broken bottles. No more crowns of thorns.

No more silent suffering. Let us raise men who cry, who feel, who love, and who heal.

Let us raise whole men.

Halima Layeni, Founder Men’s Mental Health Advocate / Life After Abuse Foundation, wrote this piece

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Buhari’s Death Abroad Reflects a Nation That Starves Its Healers by Dr. Adunmoye Ayoade

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Former President Muhammadu Buhari died abroad, far from home, in a foreign hospital. His death, while solemn, is also symbolic.

It reflects a painful irony: the same country whose leaders refuse to invest in its healthcare system continues to starve its own healers.

Nigerian doctors and health professionals, the true lifeblood of the nation, are underpaid, overworked, and systemically ignored.

While political elites escape abroad for care, those who remain behind to hold the fragile system together are left to struggle in silence with little support and even less dignity.

The Nigerian health system is in a state of emergency, crippled by gross underfunding and a mass exodus of medical professionals.

While public hospitals deteriorate, political elites indulge in medical tourism, flying abroad for treatments that could be managed locally.

This is an insult to every Nigerian who has no choice but to rely on poorly funded public hospitals.

The masses bear the brunt of this collapse, facing endless queues, dilapidated infrastructure, and overworked doctors who themselves are victims of a broken system.

The “Japa” syndrome has led to the departure of thousands of our best healthcare providers due to inadequate pay, poor welfare, and lack of adequate security.

Those who remain are stretched thin and overwhelmed, expected to perform miracles under frustrating conditions.

Moreover, beyond exhaustion, many doctors feel frustrated, undervalued, and financially insecure.

A frustrated doctor can inadvertently become a dangerous one, not out of intent, but because the environment fosters mistakes, burnout, and emotional detachment.

Medicine may be a humanitarian profession, but using that to justify poor pay and welfare neglect is moral injustice at its worst.

The poor pay has forced many medical professionals to work at multiple hospitals, often to the detriment of their health and family.

Health workers in Nigeria deserve much more: better pay, housing, and car loans, opportunities for professional development, and mental health support.

These are not luxuries, they are critical investments in the nation’s survival and well-being. The masses, civil society organizations, and religious bodies should join the advocacy for this.

No country mistreats its health workers and thrives. A nation that cannot protect its healers is ultimately unfit to protect its people.

The fact that political elites chose foreign hospitals over local ones is a damning confession: they do not believe in Nigeria.

They do not trust the system they have created, nor do they care for the lives of the ordinary citizens they swore to protect. This is a profound betrayal that cannot be ignored.

In light of this disgraceful reality, the Nigerian Medical Association (NMA) must take urgent action. A bill should be sponsored to prohibit public office holders from seeking medical care abroad for any condition that can be managed in Nigeria.

Our leaders should be compelled to use the same system they oversee. If they can subject themselves to our justice system, they should do the same with our health sector.

Nigerians have internalized years of pain and disillusionment, and their reaction to the death of their leaders reflects the raw emotion of a people long abused and neglected.

If the time ever comes when Nigerians decide to channel their pain into action, history will not be kind to those who failed to act when they had the chance.

The ruling class cannot afford this, and hence the need for them to demonstrate patriotism and a genuine care for the masses.

Now that former President Buhari has been buried, we must also bury the years of neglect, poor remuneration, and systemic disregard for the welfare of our medical personnel.

Let his passing signal a new era where those who hold up our healthcare system are valued, respected, and adequately rewarded.


A reformed health system with good remuneration for its personnel is not a luxury; it is the foundation of a nation that values life, justice, and its people.

Contact email: princeayoade@gmail.com

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One Million Teachers (1MT) Sparks National Policy Conversation with Transformative Education Model

Let There Be Teachers” Conference is expected to gather over 60,000 teachers—the largest congregation of educators ever on African soil.

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At a time when Nigeria’s education system faces unprecedented challenges, 1 Million Teachers (1MT) is offering not just hope—but a proven, homegrown solution.

With an ambitious vision to train and empower one million teachers across underserved communities, 1MT is redefining how education can transform society by placing teachers at the heart of national development.

Rooted in the belief that empowered teachers are the foundation of any thriving society, 1MT’s model has already reached over 100,000 educators across Africa. Its bold target?

One million teachers within five years—creating a ripple effect that will impact millions of learners and entire communities.

A Multi-Pronged Strategy Anchored in Innovation 1MT’s growth is built on five core pillars:

• Blended Learning: A hybrid training model combining online courses with offline community hubs for maximum reach.

• Gamified Teacher Development: The 1MT Blackbelt Program motivates teachers to grow through a merit-based, badge-earning system.

• Community Mentorship: Graduates become mentors, creating self-reinforcing networks of leadership and support.

• Strategic Global Partnerships: Collaborations with institutions like Queen’s University, HP, and Girl Rising extend 1MT’s footprint and credibility.

• Anchor Schools: Designated excellence hubs that serve as real-world laboratories for pedagogy and innovation.

The 1MT Village: Turning Vision into Tangible ChangeMore than just a campus, the 312-acre 1MT Village is a living, breathing demonstration of what happens when visionary thinking meets localised, Afrocentric action.

The Village serves as the “flywheel” of the 1MT mission—its engine room and proving ground.

• A Talent Pipeline: It houses the Centre for Teaching Excellence, Blackbelt educator residencies, the Green School, and a vocational institute—all designed to nurture future education leaders.

• A Regenerative Revenue Model: With businesses in agriculture, tourism, and cultural enterprise, the Village funds its growth sustainably.

• A Magnet for Global Collaboration: Donors, researchers, government officials, and major brands like HP and Mastercard Foundation are drawn to its tangible impact.

• A Policy Laboratory: The Village tests and demonstrates education reforms—from curriculum co-creation to budget simulations—grounded in local realities and teacher leadership.

As Nigeria seeks answers to its educational crisis, 1 Million Teachers are not waiting for change.

Let There Be Teachers’ Conference:

National Advocacy on a Global Stage Slated for September 20, 2025, at Tafawa Balewa Square, Lagos, the “Let There Be Teachers” Conference is expected to gather over 60,000 teachers—the largest congregation of educators ever on African soil.

Aiming for a Guinness World Record, the event is more than symbolic; it’s strategic.

The conference will spotlight the 1MT Blackbelt Graduation—a celebration of master educators trained through the 1MT model—and push for policy reforms including:

• Teacher-led education ministries.• Increased education funding

• Higher entry standards for teacher colleges

• Curriculum design co-owned by teachers.

• Official recognition of October 5 (World Teachers’ Day) as a national holiday.

One Movement, Many Voices

The synergy of 1MT, the Village, and the Conference is no accident. Together, they form a powerful ecosystem:

• 1MT is the heart—training teachers with world-class tools.

• The Village is the body—housing the mission in a living curriculum.

The Conference is the voice—speaking truth to power and the world.

As Nigeria seeks answers to its educational crisis, 1 Million Teachers are not waiting for change.

It is building it—acre by acre, teacher by teacher, voice by voice.Let there be teachers. Let them breathe. Let them lead.

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Who Will Bell The Cat? By Emeka Monye

Whether we belong to one religious group, political party or ethnicity is inconsequential because the harsh economy is hitting hard on everyone.

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The phrase “Who will bell the cat?” originates from a medieval fable about mice who decided to put a bell on a cat to warn them of its approach.

However, they realize that the difficult part is finding a volunteer to actually bell the cat.

The story is a classic fable that teaches a valuable lesson about courage, responsibility, and the challenges of implementing a good idea.

In modern usage, the phrase is often used metaphorically to ask who will take bold action or assume responsibility for a difficult or risky task.

In the story, a group of mice gather to discuss ways to protect themselves from a sly cat that has been terrorizing them.

One clever mouse suggests attaching a bell to the cat’s neck, so the mice can hear it coming and scurry to safety.

The plan seems brilliant, but when the mice are asked who will actually bell the cat, no one volunteers.

Here lies the challenge, everyone was scared of being the victim. The mice realize that it’s easy to propose a plan, but much harder to put it into action, especially when it involves risk.

This fable highlights the importance of considering the practicalities and potential consequences of a plan, as well as the need for courage and willingness to take action.

This is the reality we have found ourselves in modern day Nigeria.

Everyone is complaining, complaining and lamenting about the harsh economic and political disequilibrium, yet no one is bold enough or has summoned the gut to take charge and offer a real solution to the present socio-economic quagmire.

Every day on various social media, the ranting is hitting the high heavens, ceilings are being shattered and walls are being broken by people, mostly the common man, about the state of affairs in the country.

Unfortunately, and like the proverbial mice, no one seems to have summoned the courage to face the Intimidators of the large chunk of the people.

Many of those caught in this web of animal oppression have been divided along fault lines, including politics, tribe, ethnicity and worst of all, religion.

Whether we belong to one religious group, political party or ethnicity is inconsequential because the harsh economy is hitting hard on everyone.

Everyone is complaining, complaining and lamenting about the harsh economic and political disequilibrium, yet no one is bold enough or has summoned the gut to take charge and offer a real solution to the present socio-economic quagmire.

People are on a daily basis dropping dead, either by committing suicide or accidental, because they cannot afford the basic needs of life such as food.

While the political leaders have been fingered as the architect of this present economic circumstance, the reality existing among the followers who in this context can be likened to the mice, is that most of them have not been able to summon the courage to take action.

At best what we hear is false courage on social media, people hiding under pseudonyms to call on unsuspecting and naive Nigerians to go out and cause mayhem, yet these same faceless groups of people oftentimes turn around to betray the people’s trust.

And When groups or individuals in positions of power prioritize their own interests over the trust placed on them, it can lead to feelings of betrayal and disillusionment.

This phenomenon can be seen in various contexts, including politics, business, and social movements.

When leaders or representatives fail to uphold their responsibilities or act with integrity, it can erode trust and undermine the relationships between those in power and the people they serve.

To mitigate these risks, it’s essential to establish robust systems of accountability, transparency, and checks and balances.

This can help ensure that those in power act in the best interests of the people they serve and not make them live like the proverbial MICE seeking for a VOLUNTEER to bell the CAT

Emeka Monye Is A Journalist And Works With ARISE NEWS

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