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International Men’s Day: Recognizing and Honouring the Unseen Struggles & Sacrifices of Men

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With International Men’s Day on the horizon, the silence surrounding men’s struggles and the lack of acknowledgement for their sacrifices and emotional well-being demand our immediate attention. In a world where International Women’s Day is celebrated with fervour and prominence, the muted celebration of men’s contributions and the absence of recognition for their hardships is a pressing societal concern that needs urgent addressal. It is time to shatter this silence and confront the complex challenges faced by men in today’s society.

Before enlisting men as allies in the pursuit of gender equality, it is crucial to acknowledge and support their emotional struggles. Men often bear the weight of societal expectations that demand emotional resilience, stoicism, and adherence to the traditional “be a man” culture. This entrenched cultural norm, passed down through generations, has ensnared men in a suffocating silence, dissuading them from expressing vulnerability or seeking essential help.

As we delve into this crucial issue, it is imperative to illuminate the multifaceted challenges men face. Men just like women, can be victim of violence, yet their experiences are frequently marginalized or dismissed. Reports of violence, be it emotional, physical, or domestic, perpetrated against men are often under-reported, owing to stigmas surrounding male victimhood. The prevailing notion that men should epitomize strength and remain impervious to pain forces them into silence, exacerbating mental health issues and contributing to alarmingly high rates of depression and suicide among men.

To drive this change, access to mental health support for men must not only be free but also easily accessible. Through my years of advocating for men’s mental health and providing support for men in need, we have found that when provided with a safe, non-judgemental space, men—regardless of their trauma—do open up and seek help.

Governments and stakeholders worldwide must establish systems and structures that provide indispensable resources to men without prejudice or financial burden. There is an urgent need for a clearly defined and distinctive system tailored to meet men’s specific needs.

As we commemorate International Men’s Day on the 19th of November 2023, I invite society, Government and all relevant stakeholders to shed light on the often unspoken sacrifices made by fathers, breadwinners, and husbands. These men silently shoulder immense responsibilities, enduring sleepless nights, relentless hard work, and the weight of providing for their families. Their struggles often remain unseen, yet they embody a profound dedication and resilience that deserves acknowledgement and appreciation.

For too long, societal norms have downplayed the emotional toil and sacrifices of men who take on the role of provider. The stereotypical image of stoic, unyielding masculinity has masked the internal battles they face—the invisible tears shed in solitude, the fears of inadequacy, and the constant pressure to fulfil expectations. These men confront countless challenges on the path to success, bearing the burden of supporting their loved ones, often without seeking recognition or appreciation.

It’s time to dismantle the misconceptions and societal norms that overlook the sacrifices of men. We must foster an environment that encourages open conversations about the challenges they encounter, breaking the stigma that surrounds vulnerability in men.

Recognition and gratitude are fundamental human needs. A simple acknowledgement, a heartfelt “thank you,” can serve as a powerful affirmation for the sacrifices made. Society must take a collective step forward, acknowledging the multifaceted sacrifices of these men, not just on this dedicated day, but consistently and genuinely.

Moreover, the call to action on International Men’s Day is not just about recognition but also about systemic changes. We need to redefine masculinity in a way that allows men to embrace their vulnerabilities without fear of judgement. Creating support networks, both within communities and professionally, will provide a safe space for men to share their challenges and seek help when needed.

Additionally, workplaces and Government policies should evolve to accommodate the evolving roles of men in families. Flexibility in work hours, parental leaves, and support programs can significantly ease the burden and stress on men, allowing them to balance their professional and personal responsibilities more effectively.

In conclusion, it is imperative that as a world, we express our gratitude and understanding for the unseen sacrifices made by these men. Let us actively listen, support, and appreciate the fathers, breadwinners, and husbands who tirelessly strive to provide for their families. Together, let’s create a culture that honours and respects these contributions, fostering a more inclusive and compassionate society for everyone.

This International Men’s Day, let’s not just celebrate men, but commit to creating an environment where their sacrifices, emotions, and efforts are recognized, appreciated, and supported throughout the year. It’s time to redefine masculinity and create a world where everyone’s contributions are valued, seen, and appreciated.

Halima Layeni is the Founder, Life After Abuse Foundation, she is an incandescent Men’s Mental Health advocate and the Founder & Executive Director of the Life After Abuse Foundation – a non-profit currently focused on providing education, mentorship and mental health support to boys and men through policy involvement, organizational and community outreaches, media activism and psychotherapy.

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BREAKING: Iconic Italian Fashion Designer, Giorgio Armani Dies at 91

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The legendary Italian fashion designer Giorgio Armani has died at the age of 91, his company announced on Thursday.

“With infinite sorrow, the Armani Group announces the passing of its creator, founder, and tireless driving force: Giorgio Armani,” the fashion house said in a statement.

The fashion house said that Armani “passed away peacefully, surrounded by his loved ones”, noting that he remained committed to his craft until the very end.

“Tireless, he worked until his final days, dedicating himself to the company, its collections, and the diverse and ever-evolving projects both existing and in progress,” the statement read.

Ohibaba.com reports that Armani founded his eponymous label in 1975, revolutionising global fashion with his trademark sleek, understated designs.

His style soon became synonymous with elegance and sophistication, extending beyond clothing into lifestyle, interiors, fragrances, and luxury accessories.

Over the decades, Armani dressed Hollywood stars, world leaders, and athletes, building a global empire that redefined Italian fashion on the world stage.

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BREAKING: Tinubu proceeds on holidays, departs Abuja for UK, France

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President Bola Ahmed Tinubu will on Thursday, commence a working vacation in Europe, as part of his 2025 annual leave.

The president’s spokesman, Bayo Onanuga, made this known in a terse statement.

According to him, the vacation will last 10 working days.

He explained that Tinubu will spend the period between “France and the United Kingdom and then return to the country”.

This is coming barely two weeks after the president returned from Brazil.

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Cash Crisis Fuels Loan App Nightmare in Nigeria

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Cash-strapped and in dire need of N30,000 (about $20), Mariam Ogundairo turned to a loan app, downloading it and registering her phone number.

The money was quickly sent over but came with a 21.6 percent interest rate, due in two weeks.

Like many in Nigeria, battered by inflation, Ogundairo was too broke to pay back what she owed.

Then came a deluge of harassment — a tactic that has become the hallmark of many loan apps in Africa’s fourth-largest economy.

“They started calling my phone contacts when I couldn’t pay back on time, saying I owed them. “I lost my security, and it makes me so sad and scared,” Ogundairo told AFP.

Such loan apps in Nigeria, branded “predatory” by campaigners, are texting threats and leaking sensitive photos to their mobile phone contacts when people squeezed by the country’s ongoing economic crisis cannot pay up.

Often enticed by false promises of low interest rates, thousands of Nigerians have turned to personal finance apps seeking quick access to short-term loans as galloping prices put pressure on incomes, with inflation standing at 21.8 percent at the end of July.

Ogundairo struggled through the embarrassment for weeks until she was able to pay off her balance.

– ‘Quick fix’ gone wrong –

“A friend recommended it because I needed a quick fix,” another victim, a 24-year-old who took out a loan two years ago as a university student and asked his name not be used, told AFP.

After spending more than N300,000 conducting laboratory investigations for his final thesis and still needing more funds to complete his research and beat submission deadlines, the money seemed like a lifesaver.

He took out N70,000 when he was a final-year student in 2023. He was meant to pay back about N110,000 within a month, but was too broke.

The loan app then began sending messages to his phone contacts that he was a “ritualist killer”. He said he was not aware he had given the app access to his contacts.

“A couple of my coursemates got the messages.

“It wasn’t the case of unwillingness to pay; it was just a case of impossibility,” he told AFP.

An increasing number of Nigerians have turned to personal loans following reforms by President Bola Tinubu to shock the country’s moribund economy and remove costly subsidies.

Though some economists have voiced approval for the measures, Tinubu’s policies have sent inflation skyrocketing and the value of the naira plunging, hitting many ordinary Nigerians in their pockets.

Even when apps mislead people on interest rates, they can often provide better rates than traditional banks — with the benchmark interest rate at 27.5 percent, conventional loans can come with interest rates at 27 to 48 percent.

While there was no breakdown for so-called fintech apps, lenders in the country handed out about 470 billion naira in personal loans in the last quarter of 2024.

By December, outstanding personal loans jumped “by 21.27 percent to 3.82 trillion naira compared with the level at end-September 2024”, the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) said in March.

As of the same month, the Federal Competition and Consumer Protection Commission (FCCPC) approved 408 loan apps, up from 269 in September 2024, with 42 receiving conditional clearance.

The CBN approved 23 apps, up from 14 in the third quarter of last year.

Forty-seven were delisted and 88 placed on watchlists for various offences, including harassment.

The watchdog had said in the past that some loan apps were operating in the country illegally.

– Loan sharks ‘thrive’ –

Many of the loan apps’ ease of access and swift processing create a trap, said Funmi Oderinde, a lawyer at Citizens’ Gavel, a civil society organisation that has been pushing back against the lenders.

The organisation has so far received at least 1,300 complaints over “predatory digital loan apps”.

“These promises are deceptive, and borrowers soon face unethical recovery practices such as defamation, harassment, threats, breaches of data privacy, arbitrary fines, and excessively high interest rates aimed at pressuring them into repayment,” Oderinde said.

Some victims of the harassment have formed different support groups on Facebook. One such group has more than 21,000 members.

A victim told Citizens’ Gavel that, after her phone was accessed remotely, a fake obituary and a real nude photo were shared with her contacts by a loan app.

According to Oderinde, two of the people who approached the organisation for legal help “could have died” due to harassment from loan app agents.

The FCCPC, in a note sent to lenders in August, said it would “periodically monitor interest rates for services of consumer lending, and ensure rates are not exploitative”.

But despite regulatory moves, dozens of apps continue to operate under new names, and desperate borrowers often do not check approval lists before applying.

The result is that loan sharks “thrive”, Oderinde said, “because of weak sanctions and poor enforcement”.

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